Soul mate; a mythical creature?

God created man and woman for each other. At least, this is what creationists believe. Whether you - See more at: http://www.nation.lk/edition/free/item/29944-soul-mate-a-mythical-creature?.html#sthash.uRsr8SOn.dpuf

God created man and woman for each other. At least, this is what creationists believe. Whether you - See more at: http://www.nation.lk/edition/free/item/29944-soul-mate-a-mythical-creature?.html#sthash.uRsr8SOn.dpuf

 

 

God created man and woman for each other. At least, this is what creationists believe. Whether you - See more at: http://www.nation.lk/edition/free/item/29944-soul-mate-a-mythical-creature?.html#sthash.uRsr8SOn.dpuf

God created man and woman for each other. At least, this is what creationists believe. Whether you believe in creationism or not, scientific explanations also make us deduce that human beings are not meant to be alone. A human being, like any other creature living on this planet, should mate and breed in order to guarantee the survival of its kind. If we were meant to be alone, we should have had the ability to reproduce on our own. Yet, we don’t. So the logic is proved that we are not meant to be lone creatures.

 When it comes to human beings, finding a partner is not only for reproduction. You cannot just choose someone and get married for the sake of guarantying the safety of your species. To tally with the morally correct and acceptable behavior, as we all know, another dynamic should also be fulfilled for this process of mating. This factor, which is love, does not come with any scientific or logical explanation. However, love happens; easily for some and not so easily for the others.
Remember when we were teenagers and we didn’t settle for anything less than a perfect looking boy/girl? Every good looking girl/boy seemed to be the right person. Yet, as we (not everyone) grew older and wiser, we understood that it’s not only the looks that matter.  Therefore, we began our mission to seek for a soul mate. Some found the one who seems to be right, some didn’t. Some stopped because they thought that they found their soul mate, yet understood that they are not-so-compatible, as time passed by. Some had to restart their mission. There were also a few who gave up and abandoned their mission.    
However, what does the term ‘soul mate’ even mean? According to some, a soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can completely and honestly be who we are. But is there such person as a soul mate? Let’s try and be a little more realistic. We may have had our expectations about our life partners, but does your current partner meet all of it? For those who are still seeking partners, do you think that you will find a guy/gal who will have all expected qualities? Be honest with yourself and think of an answer.
In reality, the traditional definition of soul mate, the one perfect romantic partner for you in the world, can be challenged.  What if your true-other-half is a completely ignorant, childish person with no manners? Are you allowed to leave them? If he/she is the one, do you have to stick with this person forever, even though this person brings you unbearable pain?  What if your soul mate is already married to someone else? Can you steal someone else’s partner for the sake of being your soul mate?
For an outsider, this might look like an involuntary process where there are ready-made soul mates available for each other. Some may think that love comes easily and your soul mate is just waiting out there, waiting to be met. This is a matter of inexperience. People who have struggled in life, married and formed a family with their right partner know that the journey was not predefined.
Remember that no relationship is perfect. All your relationships including your friends, family and love life will have ups and downs. Successful relationships depend on hard work and compatibility. Your great uncle and aunt were together for more than 40 years not because they met each other’s soul mates, but they became each other’s soul mate. If you are not sure, ask them whether they had a perfect relationship all this long, where aunt never had to talk to your uncle in a tough tone. Ask your uncle whether he read your aunt’s mind perfectly accurate at all times. Be surprised only if they say yes.
Let’s assume that soul mates exist. Even then, finding that person who will understand you perfectly and take care of all your needs, can take years.  If you are going to pretend to be someone else, there is a big fat chance that you will never find a soul mate. Focus on the things that make you a wonderful human being. Be yourself. Keep an open mind and expect the unexpected. With a little bit of confidence, self-respect you will be able to find the person of your dreams. However, it is always a thousand times better to be forever alone that to be with a soul mate who abuses you in any form causing you distress.