Designer labels: A waste of money?

During my school days I didn’t know anything about branded clothes or accessories other than for Prada. I knew the brand Prada only because I watched the 2006 movie The Devil Wears Prada starring Anne Hathaway and Meryl Streep. Being a girl who is ignorant about fashion, I couldn’t understand most of the fashion discussions my colleagues had or why they spend so much money on clothes, cosmetics or makeovers when I started working. I was amazed by their knowledge on fashion, cosmetics and branded items. Some of them even knew to name the design of what Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge was wearing when she came out from the hospital with Prince George. I tried to listen to them and learn a few things about fashion and brands including that Duchess of Cambridge was wearing a Polka dot dress on this day. But I failed to understand them and finally decided to give up. However, I didn’t stop eavesdropping.

Hanging out with them, I learnt that some think that the only way to look good and fashionable is to purchase expensive materials- clothing or accessories from a well known, high-class shop. Some tend to pay a lot of money just for the name printed on the cloth’s price tag- its brand. You know how branded goods are expensive. Conversely, people who don’t believe in buying designer brands say some are only paying for the brand names and not for the product and its use. I believe that this statement could be interpreted as right and wrong at the same time depending on the materials they use.

Some may say that one will only be paying for the brand name and that the product is no better than any other. While you are paying in part for the privilege to wear the brand’s name, you are also probably purchasing a product that is high in quality. High quality clothes tend to last long and fit better while giving you the satisfaction of wearing branded clothing. But most of the branded fashion items are not local. Therefore, they are made to tally their customer’s needs and climate but not ours.  As an example, a branded leather jacket from UK or USA would not be suitable for this countries climate.

However, this habit of wearing or using branded material seems to be an attempt of keeping one’s social status.  Wearing designer clothing aligns you with an elite group which includes people who can afford it. Also, only the people who spend money on, or wear designer clothing recognize designer clothing. They can also usually recognize cheap clothing. Sometimes it seems like an endless battle of making each other jealous of their branded clothing, which helps them keep up to their status.

It is true that designer clothing is unique and rare. But you can also fulfill your need with usual clothing along with a little bit of creativity. You can make fashion an art but not a thing to be used to show off some status you do not have. However, if you are a fashion icon or a celebrity, buying and wearing designer clothing can be justified. But it is hard to rationalize why a normal person would spend money on designer clothes and branded items just to come to work. You are coming to your office to work, perform your duties, and showing off your social status cannot be among your duties.

Same goes with the fashion jewelry and other accessories.  A 1,000 rupee wrist watch and a 100,000 rupee wrist watch would read the same time if they are adjusted properly. So, why spend more money? Sri Lanka is still a developing country. There are people suffering who are unable to fulfill their basic needs. There are children deprived of education and there are people who have got only one change of clothes.  There are thousands of classrooms across the country without a wall clock to check the time while you wear an extremely expensive watch which you never use to check the time. You’ve got a sophisticated phone in your hand which helps you to read time. Therefore, you don’t even have to wear a watch.

When you spend too much money on branded expensive goods, think twice whether they are essential to you. See whether you can get another brand for a lower cost. Stop spending money unnecessarily, especially on imported products. Help a poor student to learn, if you think you need to spend this money. Think about the country, think about its future. Spend wisely on meaningful things.

How to say NO without looking like a jerk

We like to please others, from the beggars getting in to the bus hoping that there will be kind hearts who would spare some change for them, mother who is asking you to help prepare dinner to a colleague who is asking to stand in for him in an office issue. Pleasing others who asks you for help is one of the kindest things you can do, therefore saying NO to these people will be an extremely hard thing to do. How can you say ‘no’ to the person who stands up for you at office or your mother who always takes care of you? It will be a rude thing to do. Sometimes, in your head you might think it is your responsibility to help out the near and dear ones. Saying ‘no’ when you have this feeling might provoke a guilt feeling.

It’s good if you never have to turn down requests of your friends or loved ones. Yet, there is a limit you can be helping others. Helping people can be great, but if you say yes to everyone who asks, you'll never be able to do it all and you will not have time to attend to your matters. If you are included in the category, which you can’t open you mouth to say ‘no, there is a chance that you get loaded with tasks that you don’t enjoy performing. This isn't good for anyone; not to you or to the person who was seeking help. You're not going to do your best when you're unhappy.

If you are a person, who finds it hard to say ‘no’, you are probably aware of this and maybe you have experienced it. You might have wanted to say ‘no’ to reject some but something inside you prevented you from saying it. Therefore, as usual, you carried the other person’s chip on your shoulder, even though it weighs too much for you. How do you stop saying ‘yes’ to everyone.

But, how do you say no to a request with out looking like a jerk? All what you need is a little bit of confidence to speak out your mind. Here’s how you can turn down a request asking for help without making yourself look like a jerk. When a person asks you for help and you feel that you aren’t ready to help him or her, have the guts to say ‘no’. But first, let the person finish what he or she is saying. Think to yourself whether it’s possible or not. Don’t interrupt the person until he/she finishes talking. Learn to listen to the person with respect, even though this person is continuous help seeker who has almost got on your nerves for reaching out to you for every simple thing.  

You may feel bad for declining, but don’t show the other person that you are upset about it. Keep your voice calm and confident and keep it as simple as, “sorry, I will not be able to help you this time.” It will remind this person that you have already helped him several times and will be available to help him in the future events. If the person looks disappointed, don’t try to explain yourself or confront him with the previous times you have offered him help. 

Do not feel obligated to explain. You have your reasons and they may not be ones you wish to discuss.  Keep in mind that it's your time they're are requesting for and you have the choice to accept or decline what they're asking of you.

But in return, you too must understand that there will be events where others will have to decline your requests for help. As much as you feel burdened to help a person, when you are not ready, the one who you are asking help for will also feel burdened. If one ever says no to you, don’t get all mad about him or her. Try and understand the situation.

However, don’t keep this as an excuse and keep declining all events where you have been asked for help. You can’t avoid all circumstances. Try and do the best possible for you while giving out the maximum for others. Also, remember that these people are the ones whom you have to reach out for when you are in need of help.

Soul mate; a mythical creature?

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God created man and woman for each other. At least, this is what creationists believe. Whether you believe in creationism or not, scientific explanations also make us deduce that human beings are not meant to be alone. A human being, like any other creature living on this planet, should mate and breed in order to guarantee the survival of its kind. If we were meant to be alone, we should have had the ability to reproduce on our own. Yet, we don’t. So the logic is proved that we are not meant to be lone creatures.

 When it comes to human beings, finding a partner is not only for reproduction. You cannot just choose someone and get married for the sake of guarantying the safety of your species. To tally with the morally correct and acceptable behavior, as we all know, another dynamic should also be fulfilled for this process of mating. This factor, which is love, does not come with any scientific or logical explanation. However, love happens; easily for some and not so easily for the others.
Remember when we were teenagers and we didn’t settle for anything less than a perfect looking boy/girl? Every good looking girl/boy seemed to be the right person. Yet, as we (not everyone) grew older and wiser, we understood that it’s not only the looks that matter.  Therefore, we began our mission to seek for a soul mate. Some found the one who seems to be right, some didn’t. Some stopped because they thought that they found their soul mate, yet understood that they are not-so-compatible, as time passed by. Some had to restart their mission. There were also a few who gave up and abandoned their mission.    
However, what does the term ‘soul mate’ even mean? According to some, a soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can completely and honestly be who we are. But is there such person as a soul mate? Let’s try and be a little more realistic. We may have had our expectations about our life partners, but does your current partner meet all of it? For those who are still seeking partners, do you think that you will find a guy/gal who will have all expected qualities? Be honest with yourself and think of an answer.
In reality, the traditional definition of soul mate, the one perfect romantic partner for you in the world, can be challenged.  What if your true-other-half is a completely ignorant, childish person with no manners? Are you allowed to leave them? If he/she is the one, do you have to stick with this person forever, even though this person brings you unbearable pain?  What if your soul mate is already married to someone else? Can you steal someone else’s partner for the sake of being your soul mate?
For an outsider, this might look like an involuntary process where there are ready-made soul mates available for each other. Some may think that love comes easily and your soul mate is just waiting out there, waiting to be met. This is a matter of inexperience. People who have struggled in life, married and formed a family with their right partner know that the journey was not predefined.
Remember that no relationship is perfect. All your relationships including your friends, family and love life will have ups and downs. Successful relationships depend on hard work and compatibility. Your great uncle and aunt were together for more than 40 years not because they met each other’s soul mates, but they became each other’s soul mate. If you are not sure, ask them whether they had a perfect relationship all this long, where aunt never had to talk to your uncle in a tough tone. Ask your uncle whether he read your aunt’s mind perfectly accurate at all times. Be surprised only if they say yes.
Let’s assume that soul mates exist. Even then, finding that person who will understand you perfectly and take care of all your needs, can take years.  If you are going to pretend to be someone else, there is a big fat chance that you will never find a soul mate. Focus on the things that make you a wonderful human being. Be yourself. Keep an open mind and expect the unexpected. With a little bit of confidence, self-respect you will be able to find the person of your dreams. However, it is always a thousand times better to be forever alone that to be with a soul mate who abuses you in any form causing you distress.

Bibliomaniac vs. Bookworm

There are different types of people in the society; people who hate books, people who have to read books (like it or not), who like reading books, who love reading books and people who see books in between physiological needs and safety in Maslow's hierarchy of needs. In the last category, you will also find that there are some who are addicted to buying books. 

If you fall into the last category, you are the type of a person who happens to visit a bookstore every couple of weeks just to check the latest arrivals. When you visit the bookstore and see new books, you feel overwhelmed and have the urge to buy a new book. So, you will buy, glance through few pages and put it aside to read it when you finish whatever you were doing before you bought the book. Your schedule will be hectic, you will come across many things and your new book will wait for you, wherever you put it. Although you are busy, deep inside you will always know that there is a book waiting for you to read.

But, over the next couple of weeks your feet will drag you to the bookstore on your way home. Although you still remember the book you bought last week, which is waiting for you, you will see another must-have book on a shelf. You will do the math in your head, make a schedule that you will have a plenty of time to read and reason out yourself why you should be buying this new book. Ultimately, your rationale will win. You will buy this new book and the book you bought last week will have to shift into your bookshelf.

If you too are like this, it is time to admit that you are addicted to buying books. I know this because I am an addict. I have so many books just sitting in piles around my house waiting to be read, and what do I do several times every single month? I keep buying new books. I keep buying although I know that I should finish what I already have before buying anymore, but I just can't!

I also learnt that I am not alone. If you’re like me, and you too are addicted to buy more books than you can read, you too must have wondered how you are going to stop this habit. It is not like that we can stop this habit at once. Every month I think of ending this habit, considering the financial aspect of it.  It is really hard, but no one can afford to be broke in the middle of each month.

Interestingly, while surfing the net to seek for a way to control my habit, I came across the word, bibliomania. Bibliomania is one of the several unusual behaviors associated with books and it is characterized by collecting of books which is neither useful to the collector or to any great intrinsic value to a genuine book collector. Bibliomaniacs are different from bibliophiles. According to Wikipedia, bibliophilia or bibliophilism is the love of books. Accordingly a bibliophile is an individual who loves books. A bookworm (sometimes pejorative) is someone who loves books for their content, or who otherwise loves reading.

However, bibliomania is different from just hoarding your bookshelves with books.  Bibliomania can be a symptom of obsessive–compulsive disorder which involves collecting books to the point where social relations or health are damaged. Surprisingly there are more abnormal behaviors involving books including book-eating (bibliophagy), compulsive book-stealing (bibliokleptomania) and book-burying (bibliotaphy).

Experts on the internet suggest that making a rule that you will read some number of books you currently own before buying another one could help my bad habit. This will let you control your book purchasing habits without requiring that you wait several years until you've read the entire existing selection. It also encourages you to read more, knowing that you can reward yourself with a new book soon enough, and not feel guilty about it.

Also, make a list of books you want to buy. Try to stick to it. This will also help you to reduce the number of books you buy. You can also try the Kindle or e-versions of books. But, some people find it difficult to read the e-versions, therefore they stick with the ordinary books. If none of these are helping, try out the ‘buy one, get rid of one’ rule. If you buy a book, immediately get rid of a book you already have and have finished reading. Either donate it to a library, one in need or give it to a friend. Best of all get a library membership and borrow books to read. Visit the library instead of visiting a bookstore. Keeping away from the bookstores will surely help you.

A beautiful thing is never perfect

The craziest thing we heard last week was the news article on Daily Mail accusing Pippa Middleton of wearing a 'false bottom' at the Royal Wedding. Pippa was praised around the world for her shapely figure after the Royal Wedding. Now after more than three years, even after the royal couple had Prince George, French experts have figured out that Pippa was wearing a false bottom on April 29, 2011.  It is either that French experts are not so expert that they took more than three years to recognize that they were fooled with a false bottom or they were too mesmerized by the beauty of it that they couldn’t come up with the accusation until now.

However, it doesn’t matter whether Pipa was wearing a false bottom to us. It is not our bum to be concerned about. Yet, this implies how people are obsessed about their body image; a person's feelings of the aesthetics and attractiveness of their bodies. Psychology Today says that body image is the mental representation we create of what we think we look like; it may or may not bear a close relation to how others actually see us. That is, it is subject to all kinds of distortion from internal elements like our emotions, moods, early experiences, attitudes of our parents and much more. Further, it strongly influences behavior.

We all are concerned about our body image, one way or the other. I don’t think any of us are 100 percent happy with the way we look.  But among us there are people who are overly concerned about it. I believe that this problem affects both men and women; I have noticed people from both genders moaning about how fat or skinny or ugly they look.

There are risks which could follow you if you become overly obsessed about your body image. People who are unhappy with bodies have a risk of developing eating disorders. This may develop as constant dieting, fasting, binging, purging and even overeating if you think you are too skinny which may lead to a series of health issues. Also psychologists say that the body image is closely linked to self-esteem. Low self-esteem can also lead a person to eating disorders, early sexual activity, substance use and suicidal thoughts.

I personally believe that it is not an issue of being happy or unhappy about the way we look. It’s whether we are comfortable with our body or not. Most people do grow out of their self-esteem issues and eventually take their body for granted, but some don't and force themselves to do what not to make them feel and look better. This is also where false bottoms and breasts, even false six packs come in handy. If you go to a pharmacy, you’ll notice how much money they make from selling shape-up milk, diet pills, weight gain or loss powders.

When you look in the mirror, if your first thoughts are to start a diet, how much do you ‘hate’ your nose, hips, breasts or the backs of your thighs? To truly love your body, focus on being active, healthy and fit. Get out and move. Walk, swim, cycle, dance, do yoga, aerobics, participate in any kind physical activity. Don't do it because you think you have to in order to look thinner. Do it because it makes you feel strong and energized and confident. An Egyptian proverb says that ‘a beautiful thing is never perfect’. Perfection is dull, if not impossible. Being happy with your body doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It simply means you've chosen to embrace your imperfections. Look at the handicapped people in the society; look at the people who were born without their limbs, look at the people with birth defects. Think of yourself in that position. Be happy with what you have.

I am just a silly human being

There is a family I know. There are three children in that family and all three were barely adults when both their parents passed away, leaving them stranded, with no proper income. The eldest took the responsibility, got hold of his father’s business. During the funerals, I heard people saying, “Puthalawa deyyo balagani” (God will look after you all). The eldest was an innocent fellow, he couldn’t complete his education.

Yet, he helped his younger brother and sister to continue schooling. He got married young and now he is a father of two. People continued to say, “Baya wenna epa, deyyo ogollonwa balagannawa” (Don’t worry, God is looking after you). He was a fighter. He fought many battles in life as strongly as he could. He too believed that they have the blessing of God. Yet he failed for some unknown reasons. And now everyone blames him, for disorganization, poor plans and silly decisions. No one blames God, who was supposed to look after them. It seems like God is punishing him for something he didn’t do.

I am a powerless human being. I cannot question the almighty God. 

On my way home, I observe the presence of  a handsome young man from a well-to-do family. He has the perfect curls, a pleasant face and a well-built body. As girls pass by, he turns his attention to them as any other boy would do and sometimes he smiles. His smile looks painful for a reason I couldn’t understand for a long time. Later, I knew, his smiles look painful because his smile is all he’s got. He is unable to word his feelings, therefore unable to say ‘hello’, to any of those pretty girls passing by. He is unable to say how much he loves his mother and father. He is even unable to hear the sound of the wind. He does not know what the chirp of a bird sounds like. He cannot listen to a song when he is stressed. He cannot feel the beauty in it.  God gave him all, but forgot to make his tongue and ears active; consequently he cannot speak or hear. I am glad that he cannot hear people calling him deaf and mute.

I feel so powerless. I cannot question God, why he forgot.

I recently visited the Maharagama Cancer Hospital. At the ward, my friend was admitted in, there was a very young boy, not more than 17 years old. Since it was the visiting hour he was surrounded by friends. They were laughing and joking, as if they just got their class interval. The boy looked cheerful as he joined his friends. But there were moments when he was thinking to himself where his smile faded away. I could see his worry and the feeling of uncertainty. “He got blood cancer, recently diagnosed,” our friend, Witha, who was being treated for cancer, told us, I remember. Witha was our friend from the Sub Editors' Department at The Nation. It was our final visit to see Witha, we didn’t know, he passed away two weeks after that visit. We miss him dearly, yet I cannot forget the boy who was lying in the bed in front of him. He has to spend time on a hospital bed, fighting cancer, when he should be hanging out with his friends, having fun.

I am an ordinary human being. I don’t know why God couldn’t notice what I have noticed.

I see and I hear stories how big shots in our country cheat and make unlawful profits. I see and I hear how only a set of people live luxurious lives. I hear stories of poor farmers in my country committing suicide, unable to make money to feed their children. I frequently hear about mothers abandoning their new-born babies, just because they are unable to feed them. As I walk along the streets of Colombo, I see children, who don’t have proper clothes to wear, staring at children travelling in luxury cars wearing colorful clothes. I travel in the bus; I meet beggars, at least one beggar per day, who is trying to find some money to feed his children or to get his mother’s medicine. I go to churches, temples and kovils, where we believe God can hear us and I see homeless people begging for kindness from the devotees. I cannot understand why they were not allowed to have what other people can enjoy.

I am just a silly human being. Who am I to question why God has abandoned them?  

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There is a family I know. There are three children in that family and all three were barely adults when both their parents passed away, leaving them stranded, with no proper income. The eldest took the responsibility, got hold of his father’s business. During the funerals, I heard people saying, “Puthalawa deyyo balagani” (God will look after you all). The eldest was an innocent fellow, he couldn’t complete his education.
Yet, he helped his younger brother and sister to continue schooling. He got married young and now he is a father of two. People continued to say, “Baya wenna epa, deyyo ogollonwa balagannawa” (Don’t worry, God is looking after you). He was a fighter. He fought many battles in life as strongly as he could. He too believed that they have the blessing of God. Yet he failed for some unknown reasons. And now everyone blames him, for disorganization, poor plans and silly decisions. No one blames God, who was supposed to look after them. It seems like God is punishing him for something he didn’t do.
I am a powerless human being. I cannot question the almighty God.
On my way home, I observe the presence of  a handsome young man from a well-to-do family. He has the perfect curls, a pleasant face and a well-built body. As girls pass by, he turns his attention to them as any other boy would do and sometimes he smiles. His smile looks painful for a reason I couldn’t understand for a long time. Later, I knew, his smiles look painful because his smile is all he’s got. He is unable to word his feelings, therefore unable to say ‘hello’, to any of those pretty girls passing by. He is unable to say how much he loves his mother and father. He is even unable to hear the sound of the wind. He does not know what the chirp of a bird sounds like. He cannot listen to a song when he is stressed. He cannot feel the beauty in it.  God gave him all, but forgot to make his tongue and ears active; consequently he cannot speak or hear. I am glad that he cannot hear people calling him deaf and mute.
I feel so powerless. I cannot question God, why he forgot.
I recently visited the Maharagama Cancer Hospital. At the ward, my friend was admitted in, there was a very young boy, not more than 17 years old. Since it was the visiting hour he was surrounded by friends. They were laughing and joking, as if they just got their class interval. The boy looked cheerful as he joined his friends. But there were moments when he was thinking to himself where his smile faded away. I could see his worry and the feeling of uncertainty. “He got blood cancer, recently diagnosed,” our friend, Witha, who was being treated for cancer, told us, I remember. Witha was our friend from the Sub Editors' Department at The Nation. It was our final visit to see Witha, we didn’t know, he passed away two weeks after that visit. We miss him dearly, yet I cannot forget the boy who was lying in the bed in front of him. He has to spend time on a hospital bed, fighting cancer, when he should be hanging out with his friends, having fun.
I am an ordinary human being. I don’t know why God couldn’t notice what I have noticed.
I see and I hear stories how big shots in our country cheat and make unlawful profits. I see and I hear how only a set of people live luxurious lives. I hear stories of poor farmers in my country committing suicide, unable to make money to feed their children. I frequently hear about mothers abandoning their new-born babies, just because they are unable to feed them. As I walk along the streets of Colombo, I see children, who don’t have proper clothes to wear, staring at children travelling in luxury cars wearing colorful clothes. I travel in the bus; I meet beggars, at least one beggar per day, who is trying to find some money to feed his children or to get his mother’s medicine. I go to churches, temples and kovils, where we believe God can hear us and I see homeless people begging for kindness from the devotees. I cannot understand why they were not allowed to have what other people can enjoy.
I am just a silly human being. Who am I to question why God has abandoned them?  
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Class clown - You never know why they are funny

Class clown; there is one of them in every class. At least there was one in each and every class that I attended. Class clown is the one who makes you laugh with raw humor; he is the one who has to see the Principal or the Dean once a week. Class clown is the person whom you will be avoiding most on April 1. Surprisingly, I have never seen two clowns in one classroom or a girl clown in a mixed class room. However, there are girls who act as clowns in all-girls class room.

 Class clown is the one who continually disrupts class with his wisecracks; who will do or say anything to be in the spotlight; who has no idea when he should stop; who is smart and will respond to anything with a smart answer. He is very popular among the students and loves to be with company all the time. If he wishes to, he can crack a joke about almost anything. He bothers other students, sometimes by talking, touching or grabbing their hands during lecture hours. Usually the one who sits next to him also gets scolded by the teacher for encouraging him. Class clown is often unprepared for the class; he is the one who will always ask others for pens and papers.

Even a clown or a joker can become a pain with too many jokes. His witty remarks are entertaining yet there are times when it becomes repulsive. His jokes are smart enough to grab the attention of the teacher and the classmates and sometimes the teacher is unable to control him. Things get worse in an incident where others also join him, making fun in the classroom. If the teacher is not smarter than him, she or he (usually she) becomes upset and starts nagging the class as a whole. That’s when things start to become disgusting. Once attention is lost, you know how hard it is to regain it, especially when he is humorous beyond doubt.

Usually the clown gets what he wants. The teacher spends so much time with the class clown and sometimes it is very resentful that others have to try harder to get that attention from the teacher. It is irrepressible that we laugh at this smarty pants, yet we have always had this disgusting feeling towards the clown, often wondering what makes him behave like that.

We usually tend to encourage the clown to joke around class. We laugh at his jokes, enjoy his twisted answers and even take his stories to the dinner table sometimes. If you are the teacher dealing with a class clown, you should know how embarrassing it is when you cannot handle him during the lesson. True, this one can become a pain in the neck, yet have you ever given it a thought why this one is always behaving frantic. Even though class clowns were present in the classes since forever, it’s doubtful, whether you, as a young teacher reading this or as the friend who is sitting next to him, have understood the role in helping him.

We never see the clown as a person who needs help; he always seems to be happy. Although we usually condemn him for being the joker, never taking him seriously, psychologists say that the class clown is a person in need of help. His pranks are his way of crying out for help. Attention he seeks from the class could be something that he lacks at home. Maybe the situations at home or at school are painful and this student may be hiding the pain by being the class clown. Sometimes the student’s inability to succeed in the academic world causes him to become the class clown.

Think about it for a moment. Although he or she gets on your nerves by all his annoying tricks and jokes or makes you laugh unnecessarily during a lecture, this student may not like the role of class clown. Think of what you can do as a friend or a teacher to help the class clown to become a normal student, who does not disturb the class or get on teacher’s nerves.

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Class clown; there is one of them in every class. At least there was one in each and every class that I attended. Class clown is the one who makes you laugh with raw humor; he is the one who has to see the Principal or the Dean once a week. Class clown is the person whom you will be avoiding most on April 1. Surprisingly, I have never seen two clowns in one classroom or a girl clown in a mixed class room. However, there are girls who act as clowns in all-girls class room.
 Class clown is the one who continually disrupts class with his wisecracks; who will do or say anything to be in the spotlight; who has no idea when he should stop; who is smart and will respond to anything with a smart answer. He is very popular among the students and loves to be with company all the time. If he wishes to, he can crack a joke about almost anything. He bothers other students, sometimes by talking, touching or grabbing their hands during lecture hours. Usually the one who sits next to him also gets scolded by the teacher for encouraging him. Class clown is often unprepared for the class; he is the one who will always ask others for pens and papers.
Even a clown or a joker can become a pain with too many jokes. His witty remarks are entertaining yet there are times when it becomes repulsive. His jokes are smart enough to grab the attention of the teacher and the classmates and sometimes the teacher is unable to control him. Things get worse in an incident where others also join him, making fun in the classroom. If the teacher is not smarter than him, she or he (usually she) becomes upset and starts nagging the class as a whole. That’s when things start to become disgusting. Once attention is lost, you know how hard it is to regain it, especially when he is humorous beyond doubt.
Usually the clown gets what he wants. The teacher spends so much time with the class clown and sometimes it is very resentful that others have to try harder to get that attention from the teacher. It is irrepressible that we laugh at this smarty pants, yet we have always had this disgusting feeling towards the clown, often wondering what makes him behave like that.
We usually tend to encourage the clown to joke around class. We laugh at his jokes, enjoy his twisted answers and even take his stories to the dinner table sometimes. If you are the teacher dealing with a class clown, you should know how embarrassing it is when you cannot handle him during the lesson. True, this one can become a pain in the neck, yet have you ever given it a thought why this one is always behaving frantic. Even though class clowns were present in the classes since forever, it’s doubtful, whether you, as a young teacher reading this or as the friend who is sitting next to him, have understood the role in helping him.
We never see the clown as a person who needs help; he always seems to be happy. Although we usually condemn him for being the joker, never taking him seriously, psychologists say that the class clown is a person in need of help. His pranks are his way of crying out for help. Attention he seeks from the class could be something that he lacks at home. Maybe the situations at home or at school are painful and this student may be hiding the pain by being the class clown. Sometimes the student’s inability to succeed in the academic world causes him to become the class clown.
Think about it for a moment. Although he or she gets on your nerves by all his annoying tricks and jokes or makes you laugh unnecessarily during a lecture, this student may not like the role of class clown. Think of what you can do as a friend or a teacher to help the class clown to become a normal student, who does not disturb the class or get on teacher’s nerves.

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Class clown; there is one of them in every class. At least there was one in each and every class that I attended. Class clown is the one who makes you laugh with raw humor; he is the one who has to see the Principal or the Dean once a week. Class clown is the person whom you will be avoiding most on April 1. Surprisingly, I have never seen two clowns in one classroom or a girl clown in a mixed class room. However, there are girls who act as clowns in all-girls class room.
 Class clown is the one who continually disrupts class with his wisecracks; who will do or say anything to be in the spotlight; who has no idea when he should stop; who is smart and will respond to anything with a smart answer. He is very popular among the students and loves to be with company all the time. If he wishes to, he can crack a joke about almost anything. He bothers other students, sometimes by talking, touching or grabbing their hands during lecture hours. Usually the one who sits next to him also gets scolded by the teacher for encouraging him. Class clown is often unprepared for the class; he is the one who will always ask others for pens and papers.
Even a clown or a joker can become a pain with too many jokes. His witty remarks are entertaining yet there are times when it becomes repulsive. His jokes are smart enough to grab the attention of the teacher and the classmates and sometimes the teacher is unable to control him. Things get worse in an incident where others also join him, making fun in the classroom. If the teacher is not smarter than him, she or he (usually she) becomes upset and starts nagging the class as a whole. That’s when things start to become disgusting. Once attention is lost, you know how hard it is to regain it, especially when he is humorous beyond doubt.
Usually the clown gets what he wants. The teacher spends so much time with the class clown and sometimes it is very resentful that others have to try harder to get that attention from the teacher. It is irrepressible that we laugh at this smarty pants, yet we have always had this disgusting feeling towards the clown, often wondering what makes him behave like that.
We usually tend to encourage the clown to joke around class. We laugh at his jokes, enjoy his twisted answers and even take his stories to the dinner table sometimes. If you are the teacher dealing with a class clown, you should know how embarrassing it is when you cannot handle him during the lesson. True, this one can become a pain in the neck, yet have you ever given it a thought why this one is always behaving frantic. Even though class clowns were present in the classes since forever, it’s doubtful, whether you, as a young teacher reading this or as the friend who is sitting next to him, have understood the role in helping him.
We never see the clown as a person who needs help; he always seems to be happy. Although we usually condemn him for being the joker, never taking him seriously, psychologists say that the class clown is a person in need of help. His pranks are his way of crying out for help. Attention he seeks from the class could be something that he lacks at home. Maybe the situations at home or at school are painful and this student may be hiding the pain by being the class clown. Sometimes the student’s inability to succeed in the academic world causes him to become the class clown.
Think about it for a moment. Although he or she gets on your nerves by all his annoying tricks and jokes or makes you laugh unnecessarily during a lecture, this student may not like the role of class clown. Think of what you can do as a friend or a teacher to help the class clown to become a normal student, who does not disturb the class or get on teacher’s nerves.

- See more at: http://www.nation.lk/edition/lifestyle/item/27492-class-clown-you-never-know-why-they-are-funny.html#sthash.amYnakyC.dpuf